The more we shelter children from every disappointment, the more devastating future disappointments will be.
FRED G. GOSMAN, How to Be a Happy Parent ... In Spite of Your Children
I had a moment as a parent today, that not only broke my heart but made me glad also. My dear sweet Lainey loves to sing! She has been involved with her school's melody choir all year. It is a free after school program. To say she loves it is an understatement. She practices all the time singing her songs and working on the actions. We have been excitedly looking forward to her end of year performance. Lainey also loves to Dance! She has been taking classes since she was 3 and looks forward every week to dance day.
As we are ending the year with her dance concert coming we realized that her mandidtory dress rehearsal for dance was on the same night as her choir concert. I noticed this problem about 2 weeks ago, but hoped we could work something out. I didn't mention it to her because I was hoping we could make it to both on the same night. When I realized it just wasn't possible. I laid it out to her plainly. If she missed dress rehearsal she couldn't perform in her dance concert (which we do pay for), or she would have to miss her choir concert. I gave the decision to her. I expected tears, but was utterly amazed at her response. After thinking about it for a few minutes she made her decision. She has decided to do her dance performance. While she didn't cry I could hear the emotion in her voice about not singing. It broke my heart to make her have to choose, but she was brave and made the decision. She knows that she can still be in the choir next year and will hopefully get to perform there too. I
Sometimes life is hard, we are faced with decisions everyday, some are easy some are hard, but the hardest ones are the ones when we have to choose between to really good things. She has made her choice and I am so proud of her for her courage. WE LOVE YOU LAINEY! I am so pleased to be your mom.